Monday, January 4, 2010

The Accidental Housewife

Well, hi! The last year or so has been fraught with major life changes, and I think somewhere I forgot to make adjustments for them. Instead I just kept plugging along, but finally I just got so worn out that I realized I needed to re-prioritize. So, due to a perfect storm of circumstances, I have become a housewife for now. More like housewife/grad student, but it is still not where I expected to be at this point in my life.

And because I didn't anticipate this, I have a few worries. I worry that because I won't be bringing any money into the household, I'll become a drain on my husband and our resources. I also worry about the possibility of becoming stagnant and not making any kind of contribution to my (small) family.

So I'm going to try to use this time for focused renewal. I'm not sure how long this phase of my life is going to last, but I did set a few goals:
  • Make progress in my graduate program.
  • Improve my practice of the "domestic arts".
  • Boost my (and my husband's) health and wellness.
Are these SMART goals? Heck, no. They are vague as all get-out. I do have some more specific subgoals, just not an organized list of them yet.

My overarching goal/hope is that I can get all this stuff figured out now so the next time things get crazy, most of this "life maintenance" stuff will be habit and I'll be able to take on the new things better than I did this time.

2 comments:

  1. As his wife, aren't you technically supposed to be a drain on your husband and resources? From a purely historical point of view, of course. ;-)

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  2. Historically, yes, but then that would make me his chattel.

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